Are you guilty of saying this to an atheist? This is a hugely overused reaction when I address the reasons why a deity doesn’t respond, and is offensive for a couple of reasons.
The first reason, why do you know me better than I know me? I want the truth and I understand that finding the truth involves being honest with myself. I know that when I try to find God, I’m not doing a half-arsed job of it.
Secondly, why do I have to put the work in? If a God loves me I fully expect him to put the work in. There is no reason why I have to do so. I work full time, occasionally battle with mild mental health issues (personally and within the family) and have things I’ve got to do. But I have to try hard to find a God that is capable of anything? Ha!
I find it cute that God only responds when he sees that I have put everything into it, and does not give a little assistance on the way.
Is it any wonder why religion is in decline?